OP I think your family needs to sit down with a therapist. Asshole I f25 along with my two brothers Dean & Kevin (both 30s) went through rough time during our parents divorce, mom got married to my stepdad and we lived with him for years. Cut ties with them and get them to pay for damages. NTA. If someone slashed my tires they are paying or i am calling the police.the men in your family are immature bullies. NTA. A native English speaker would be like yeah, sure whatever, hearing that. Its unfortunate that they are your family members. Husbands family in the other hand probably won't like the reception. ), questioned him like it was a game of 20Q insulted his intellect, and claimed that his asthma was an excuse so they hid something he could die without. Everyone should be laughing and no one's life should be in danger over one. They have no respect for either of you or your relationship. Exactly. Tim most love you to bits to put up with all this sheee-itte coz Id be gone after they slashed my tyres.you are 100% NTA here your family sound mental. I wouldn't be surprised if intentionally hiding a medical device is illegal too, it certainly should be. How do you fix slashed tires? I seriously wonder what kind of testosterone hell OP had to deal with growing up. NTA And then expect better from family. 8.6K views, 64 likes, 0 loves, 68 comments, 3 shares, Facebook Watch Videos from Reddit Addiction: AITA for uninviting my stepdad from my wedding so my. I hope you and your soon to be husband have a wonderful life together OP! Something they weren't at all worried about. By accepting all cookies, you agree to our use of cookies to deliver and maintain our services and site, improve the quality of Reddit, personalize Reddit content and advertising, and measure the effectiveness of advertising. "AITA for letting my family bully my fiance to a point of endangering his mental and physical health?". You are also TA for condoning their behavior up to this point. Or not even cut them off, just make sure I am not in the position where they could do that to me again e.g. Slashing tires costs money and time and possibly work. First, none of those "challenges" are typical of things men do and several are legit crimes. Theyre just acting sorry because youre making a stink about it. I idolised and adored my father to the point whereby I resented my mother. If this happened to me I would get a text or something admitting to it, take them to court, and bail on the relationship completely. OP is young and probably still having to learn to navigate this issue. I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Tell your fianc to stop doing things alone with them. I admittedly have had a few fights with my dad about how I think she treats me and my brother and sister. They are immature, idiot morons Honestly, it is astounding that Tim is still with LW. Slashing his tires? The man could have died or faced serious injury without that inhaler. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: i am thinking about uninviting my sister from my mothers birthday dinner because she abruptly left me to go to the concert with someone else. It's just a prank after all?! Your question shouldn't be about uninviting your asshole family, it should be "My stepdad did what he could "I literally freaked out because I definitely want my brothers to be at my wedding so badly and I tried A woman has been slammed after uninviting her stepdad from her wedding, . REAL men's lips turn red like the blood of our poached kill!!". I actually disagree with everyone who says you're not the asshole because you very clearly are. Are they going to hide to kid to see if he is a real father? Ask them who was going to be the one to explain to his family if he died. If my partners familt slashed my tirrs as a "test" I would have RUN from you and your toxic family! They're going to drive him away from you and be all oh shucks. They will absolutely do this and worse to your kids, to make sure they turn out "tough, not like their father". They will seek out and tell a woman and will hope that woman will intercede on their behalf with a male boss/authority figure/doctor, but they will avoid going to the male authority figure themselves even when death is on the line. Tell them they need to apologize and gain respect in your eyes .. Tell them that their insecurities about how manly they are is showing loud and clear to everyone. OP, they should be damn lucky your fiance hasn't just walked away from you and the marriage. The relationship is ruined, so why not enjoy it a little bit. Or to respect that, for that matter. Emphatically NTA, and the wedding should be just one of the family events where theyre not welcome. Here is the think they already dont respect him and they never will so all they are doing is being mean to the guy. This is a hill to die on OP. They literally slashed his tires? For some reason the other guys never prank me. For me, the slashed tires would be the moment where I call the police. He stole my moms car a few times and stole from me. And to add, men who are testing his manliness are the exact kind of men that dont have a clue what it means to be a real man. I was living with them and did what he wanted. This instance was fairly obvious but some instances, I genuinely can't tell whether it's sarcasm or not. They are astoundingly in the wrong and you are right to uninvite them. They literally could have killed him. I literally freaked out because I definately want my brothers to be at my wedding so badly and I tried talking to them but they were being stubborn, after talking to my fiance I had no choice but to politely uninvite my stepdad and sending him an email stating why. Im not speaking from hyperbole here. NTA. See our ~~*Best Of*~~ "Most Controversial" at /r/AITAFiltered! My family thinks I am the asshole because of how harshly I spoke to him, that i chose stepdad over him and that I broke his heart. Dad has high expectations, but he is never mean about it (you won't even know you're tested). Got to admit that if I were Tim, Id run. INFO: did any of these prankster men go to college? NTA. I would have been gone the moment I realized my "partner" thought any of this was okay. All the best to you both with your marriage! Slashing tires is dangerous and expensive.. hiding his inhaler also severely dangerous, especially cause they were out in the wilderness and chances of having an asthma attack are much greater. If you give in, now or ever, you will be the AH and you will get your fianc killed. I had a ton of brothers and a dad who were all involved in fishing, hunting, survival, etc. It's yours. They've shown who they are and they aren't going to change. Also, ask them in case of your fiancs asthma getting worse medically that he needed to be rushed to hospital which off them would be manly enough to cover all the bills and charges. What would they have done if he got sick or died? NTA. A prank leaves people laughing all together over something silly and stupid. As you say, she's 16 and knows what she's doing. Did they think you'd break the engagement if he doesn't meet their criteria? Uninviting them to the wedding is the least thing, they're just going to retaliate for their whole lives. If you are serious about your fianc, I would ditch the family all together. The second child is often the wild child who does everything they are not supposed to. !1' wankers for more than 45 seconds before my vagina closed up like The Chamber of Secrets. NTA. Slashing his tyres? Seriously consider it for his own safety AND for the safety of any future children. Yeah, like, I think there's two judgements to be made here. He would be better off using the money to wipe his ass than spend it on her, Lol she let him pay the wedding and then invites him lol I hope stepdad cuts her out too, How directly the fare there so many NTA and ESH?`, Let me guess, most have some variation of "It's YOUR wedding!!!!". They took time to think then gave me an ultinatum stating that if our stepdad is coming then they won't be. NTA. If it was me, they would be the last people on my mind to invite to a wedding." "They dont deserve your time. Asthma can kill and as someone with asthma not knowing where my emergency inhaler is can cause anxiety as I may need it to save my life. Your family will never like or accept him (or possibly any guy you bring home as they sound toxic af). They dont deserve to be at the wedding. They gave him a likely impossible task just to haze her partner. If these guys need to grunt and scratch their balls to show that they are real men let them - but these are not jokes. YTA for allowing this to go for as long as it did. Redditor aitamumuninvited is a 31-year-old man whose mother did not wholly embrace her future daughter-in-law because of something she did. They've done that to you too. Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole. That's all I think I can say about it without this getting removed, nor does it have to do with the post farther than him being gone. Tell your mom she's welcome to join them leaving your wedding as well. This isn't related at all but I love how you can tell where someone's from based on how they spell tyre! NTA you are prioritising yourself and your mental health and thats the right thing to do. I have asthma. They have already stated they do not respect your life partner. Who thought it was a great idea for an asthmatic person to go on a 3 day trip with 4 individuals who had already slashed his tires to "see what type of man he is"? Poor Tim. yeah, what kind of balanced human being needs to ask reddit if this kinda shit is ok? I feel like it is finally time to cut my dad off but idk AITA? To the siblings, though, it looks like dad hasn't done anything wrong. maybe they'll change their tune about "pranks" after that. At same time, I'm sorry Op, if I was Tim, I might rethink about marriage to your family, your family is asshole. Even Neanderthals are more caring and civilized than these AHs. probably just some well deserved peace and quiet. NTA. See how they liked it. Remember OP grew up with this behavior. I feel so bad for him and am honestly surprised hes still with you. NTA, and im sorry, also FUCK YOUR DAD, as your post says " he was abusive in everyway, but a master manipulater.". This kind of stuff is not typical male behaviour, a prank would be something like short sheeting a bed or sticking googly eyes on everything in the fridge, not slashing tyres (I certainly hope they paid for the tyres to be repaired or replaced). What if you had to get somewhere fast or had to get to work? OP better step up her game. But not cool at all this went too far. Nick has thrown a complete uproar about not being invited to my bachelorette or bridal shower. Wtf did I even just read. I never got the impression OP wasnt supportive of the fianc. Woman slammed for uninviting step-dad from wedding so brothers would attend A bride-to-be is being shamed online after confessing she'd uninvited her step-dad from her wedding - which he paid. In my family we tease each other and play jokes and trust me this is not what we do! Today the victim is your fiance. Then, still exclusively breathing through the straw, they must race in panic upstairs/across the house/down the driveway/whatever distance back to you for help. (jfc the warped mentality has me spinning). Ngl he did what he could to help me out with school and everything, he even offered to fund my wedding which is going to be in 5 weeks time and I'm very grateful for that though this was his decision. You don't need them at your wedding and honestly? I told my mom about getting ready for graduation, but that he was not invited. Bringing you the freshest and best posts from r/AmItheAsshole Timestamps:0:00 - AITA for causing my sister to no longer have her college paid for?2:14 - AITA. The soft college boy clearly they feel insecure around him or they wouldnt treat him like that! They have it, but it burns everyone around them. Those men are beyond toxic. NTA, this is taking toxic masculinity to another level. He still went camping with them after months (years?) OP's family isn't awful, they are abusive. This x10000000000000000. Doesn't matter if it's family or not! An inhaler is necessary medical equipment your fiance needs, not an accessory because he's "soft". And to also add that theyre belittling his mental health too. I will say though - you NEED to go to bat for him more. What about them proving to you that they are decent people who love and care about you? NTA, You set a healthy boundary with your family (which is difficult to do) and they violated that. Seriously, these arent pranks. I f25 along with my two brothers Dean & Kevin (both 30s) went through rough time during our parents divorce, mom got married to my stepdad and we lived with him for years. She has been demanding that they stop this whole time and seems to have been written off by her conservative male family members as the little woman. 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